The Fantasy Fallacy By Shannon Etheridge

Erotica has invaded more than our minds – it has exploded onto our bestseller lists and into our bedrooms. Many are looking to sexual and emotional fantasies as avenues to fulfillment. Our fantasies, however, are not reliable guides into the future—they are actually rocky road maps from our past. Best-selling author Shannon Ethridge theorizes, “Fantasies are simply the brain’s way of trying to heal itself from unresolved tragedies and traumas. We mentally compartmentalize our pain to make room for pleasure.” Fantasies have deep psychological roots, and if acted on many of them can do deep psychological damage. Rather than let fantasies rule us, let’s take out the sting and bring them under God’s rule, allowing the Lord to heal us from the brokenness and insecurities that cause inappropriate fantasies to haunt us. Without being judgmental or condemning, Shannon helps us dissect several common and often-disturbing topics, such as: •a distorted fascination with pornography •the mental pursuit of multiple partners •the lure of gay and lesbian desires •bondage, domination, and sadomasochism (BDSM) With tips for controlling unwanted fantasies and resources for providing a safe haven for recovery, The Fantasy Fallacy helps us recognize and heal our emotional pain and equips us to help others do the same.

Porn and sex is so wide spread in the world today, it's almost as if we're saying, "here, go ahead, be promiscuous". But in the book, Etheridge shows us how God meant for sex to be a bond between Man & woman under the confines of marriage. It's all about the selling. Sex sells, porn sells. It gives men and women a false hope and false pretense of how sex "should" be between two people, or three, heck! even four!. Also, it tells men that it's ok to have relations with another man or woman with woman, although the Bible tells us different. The whole sexual concept is stemmed from movies/books/magazines and it poisons the mind and makes a peversion of what God meant to be a holy union. The author goes on to talk about fantasies and what is ok and what is not. There's also sections regarding addictions people face with pornography and polygamy and how it's not what God meant for us. Definitely a great read and reminded me of Lot's days in Sodom & Gomorrah. Would definitely reccomend.